They notice, but are too polite to say anything, would be my guess. Sometimes people lose weight when they are sick.
27 Oct 21 by member: Sexymoi
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I know many people who have lost weight and prefer when people don’t acknowledge as then it makes them think people just see the “weight” not the person. My experience is people choose to be safe and choose to be silent so as not to hurt another.
27 Oct 21 by member: sarah_justdoit
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I understand that people might not say anything because they don't know if someone is sick and not trying to lose weight. My question was about my second thought. That people only see you as fat no matter what.
27 Oct 21 by member: Daisy2691
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The "not seeing" part might be true. They might just discount a fat person until they become a threat to their preconceived notions and roles. But the GOOD friends are polite and won't want to put undue pressure on you. Family is blunt.
27 Oct 21 by member: Rosie We Can Do It
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I agree with sarah_justdoit Especially in a group. They may have feared it would embarrass you. Remember - you are doing this for you, your health!!
27 Oct 21 by member: grammycracker
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Daisy, I am going to be honest, hope it does not come out wrong: I don't know how tall you are, but you are 50lbs heavier than me. If I met you, I would avoid any conversation about weight because all I would be thinking about would be that you still have some way to go. It's great that you lost that much, but that's not really enough, so I'd just shut up. Also, as Sarah said, some people are not comfortable talking about their weight loss since it's only about appearances. At least for me it's not, it makes me happy when I see people getting healthier, but still, it's a touchy subject.
27 Oct 21 by member: Eral66
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I have had few people notice. Occasionally I have seen people who haven't seen me in 6 months, but most people know I struggle with my weight and am always dieting so they will say positive things if they think of it. My mom always thinks I look great!
27 Oct 21 by member: abbadabba
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Daisy, I have to say sometimes people say things to be nice, but often times they sugar coat things. When people compliment me or at least try to start a conversation about my weight I walk away. I could say I lost x amount of pounds and inches and it wouldn't matter. Keep positive and keep up the great work. The amount of weight you lost is amazing!
27 Oct 21 by member: morganstuart
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I think sometimes your friends just don't want to put pressure on you. Let's face it, people sometimes lose a bunch of weight and then turn around and gain it all back. And if you're their friend and made a big deal about the loss, what do you say about the gain? My friends didn't say anything until I'd lost over 75 pounds, and then they said lots of great, supportive things. But remember, you are doing this for YOU, so take some pictures as you travel down this path, just to remind yourself of the amazing things you are accomplishing. Good luck on your journey! 💜
27 Oct 21 by member: shirfleur 1
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I feel your friends could say, wow you look great. no weight issue or number of pounds response needed.
27 Oct 21 by member: pamprecious
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I have seen this same basic post multiple times since I have been on FS. It seems that many people are offended regardless of whether it is because they commented on the weight loss or didn’t comment. As far as “comments of a personal nature” in the workplace you are better off saying nothing. There are always people nowadays who construe the comments as invasive of their personal space, or sexualizing the comment, etc. it’s a weird world out there.
27 Oct 21 by member: Kenna Morton
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I have lost 42.5 pounds since starting. Last night my sister said "wow, you have really lost some weight!" I think it just takes awhile for people to notice. Congrats on all your hard work!
27 Oct 21 by member: hmbrown
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Very true Kenna! It depends on how close your friend is too. If you have been sharing your journey with her I would think that she would cheer you on and supportive of your efforts. Also, sometimes some people that are in your life are afraid that you may change and they worry that you won't be that same person that they know and love.
27 Oct 21 by member: Little Red Fox
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27 Oct 21 by member: C4co.op2
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Do this for you! That's my 1st piece of advice. 2ndly, I agree with Shirl.
It's nice to get compliments but most people don't know what to say... keep posting here and you will find like-minded people that will be supportive. Keep going forward! You got this! 💜
27 Oct 21 by member: Diana 1234
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I actually had the woman who screens for Covid symptoms at the hospital front door tell me she noticed I had lost weight. I didn’t get those kinds of comments when I had lost a bunch before because I was still wearing my baggy clothes. They may not see your weight loss is what I’m getting to. Just relish in the fact of how great you feel losing that weight!
27 Oct 21 by member: Irishgalwnc
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I think there is another side to this. My good friends didn't mention my weight because they know the ups and downs I've had. They know it's a touchy subject. They don't want to hurt my feelings, if their observation is wrong. So they wait for me to say something.
Another observation, of mine, is until 30-35 lbs are off I'm not sure if the person is wearing loose fitting clothes or has lost weight. I have approached a friend with loose clothing, and asked,"Hmmm. Is it time for a smaller pant size?" Usually, I get a squeal of delight, "Thank you for noticing!!!" As I said, it's a tricky subject.
27 Oct 21 by member: BShannon2023
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And Eral66 just validated my thinking that some people only see fat. To you I say, of course if you just met me, that would be what you and probably all people would see. That would be what I would see, although on this forum I don't think I would follow up that statement with that's not enough weight to lose. Just saying.
My question was is that all your friends see too? Many of your comments have been helpful about this question, so thank you.
And someone else mentioned that you wouldn't say anything in the workplace. I agree and thank goodness I don't have to work anymore and face the workplace too. Thanks for all your thoughts, it has been enlightening.
27 Oct 21 by member: Daisy2691
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All I know for sure...is this FS group KNOWS what it takes to lose that much wt and we applaud that!🙌👍 Please don't let their reaction (or lack of one) be a setback for you. Keep up the good work and we will keep cheering you on 🙋♀️🤸♀️🤸♂️
27 Oct 21 by member: CrystalJo74
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When you are obese, it takes a long time for people to know. When I was 300 pounds, I was probably 230 before anyone started commenting. By 215 most people knew and by 200 it was constant compliments daily and ever pound after that really make a difference. Just keep doing it because you probably look and feel awesome.
27 Oct 21 by member: davidsprincess
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