SwtDivaHou's Journal, 13 Jan 09

I am thinking of writing a book - two actually. One will be titled "Being Functional in a dysFunctional Family" - I figure that one will be best seller and a great comical read as everyone will be able to relate. The only problem is disguising the dysfunctional people (in my family) that I am going to write about. The other one I have semi started - It's title is "The Tip of the Iceberg", it touches on the crazy dysfunctional people in my family and how they have affected my life. I am definitely going to write it in 1st person. My initial take was to write it in 3rd person but it will sound so much more personal and "oh yeah I can relate to that" to others.

So I didn't get to work this morning until 10:00 am. I am supposed to be here at 9:00 am and I work an hour to hour and a half from my house depending on traffic. So anyhoo...I digress...I had to meet with my son's teacher because he asked a little girl in his class (they are 5th graders) if she was bisexual because she dresses and acts like a boy. Anything relating to sex is conference time and a referral. So, the little girl's parents wanted all of us to have a conference..no problem! I get there and the little girl's father starts in on me asking me what do we teach our children where they would ask such a question. Are we that liberal and lax in our household! Now he is asking me these questions in front of the children and I really didn't like his attitude. I will say this...the little girl at first glance looked like a boy. She does wear boy clothes, sits like a boy and has a boyish could be girlish haircut. So I told him that the real question is what is he teaching in his household and how come they are not raising the little girl to be a girl. And...would we be still having this conversation if these children were three years older in high school.

The teacher sends the children out because the conversation between the father and I is getting heated. The mother of the child just sat there and never said a word. The teacher interjects and explains the policy and that it could be looked at as sexual harassment and that is why we are here and we all need to calm down. He then says "that boy needs to apologize for asking such an offensive question." I will be honest...I didn't like his tone, so I told him, my son will not apologize for his curiosity. So he then demanded to see the principal to make my son apologize. I told him I nor anyone else was going to make my son apologize. The teacher trys to calm the situation again and tells us she is going to bring the children back in. I ask the little girl if it would make her feel better if my son apologized for hurting her feelings. My son follows up with that he is sorry for if he hurt her feelings, he didn't mean to. She says, it's okay...I know you didn't mean anything by it and that she was sorry he got in trouble. The father of the little girl gets in my child's face and tells him he needs to apologize for asking that inappropriate question and I told him No, you don't need to apologize for that unless I say you need to.

This jerk then says, "This is the result of their not being a father in the boys life." His wife looked like someone slapped her, I wanted to slap her husband but instead I told him, "I guess you missed this big a** diamond on my hand, I am married and have been for the last twelve years, his father isn't here because he is at work providing for his family!" I told him he should apologize for making that inappropriate comment. I told the teacher this meeting was over as long as that ignoramus continued to be here but she and I could discuss disciplinary action for my son because it does fall under sexual harassment and our school district takes these things very seriously. Throughout all of this...the wife never said a word! I told him, how he raises his children is his business, but he she will need to be made of strong stuff if she continues to want to dress and act the way she does. It will not be a question but malicious comments coming from boys and girls that will hurt. He appeared to look like he wanted to say something or do something but I am 5'8" and I had on 3" heels so I was at least 5'11", I held my ground and dared him with my eyes to try it. My son stepped up (my baby is 5'4" - tall for his age), and I put him behind me. The teacher stepped in and told me she would walk him and his wife out and come back and discuss the disciplinary with me.

Now if he would have been more mature, that meeting would have last maybe 30 minutes but this nonsense cost me an hour and 15 minutes. This is something I have always said...if we as parents allow our children to work out their own issues (unless it is something hateful or seriously harmful), they can resolve it themselves because they will be back friends within hours if not days. In this case...it was hours. My youngest called me from home asking if he could go skateboarding with the girl and the guys. I told him, reminded him that he was on punishment for coming in after curfew on Sunday.

As far as the rest of my day...I tried to give blood and couldn't because my iron came back at 36 and you have to be 38. I didn't eat lunch until after I tried to give, I am sure if I would have ate prior to that it would have been high enough. They also took my blood pressure and it was 140/90 which is high and it is normally pretty perfect. She took it twice to make sure she read it right. I blame that on the ignoramus I had to deal with this morning! I told my husband all of this and he was like now sweety, you know that you are better than that and as a saved woman, you have to represent God in all areas. I promptly replied that "I have not been saved all my life, and sometimes you have to go there with people" But, he's right, I should have used another word other than a**, I guess I could have said donkey butt. lol.

It's 7:00 and it looks like I will be doing hip hop abs tonight as I do not want to go to the gym this late.

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1818 kcal

Fat: 45.91g | Prot: 89.64g | Carbs: 266.94g.   Breakfast: Coffee, coffee cream, sugar, water, orange mango juice, egg, american cheese, Oven Roasted Turkey Breast & White Turkey. Lunch: water, green tea with citrus, sun chips, Chicken Salad Sandwich on Whole Grain. Dinner: Grilled Chicken Garden Salad. Snacks/Other: Godiva milk chocolate strawberries, Banana, lite strawberry yogurt. more...

3597 kcal

Exercise: Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 30 minutes, Desk Work - 8 hours and 20 minutes, Resting - 7 hours and 10 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...